Dildo Guide
Direct Control and Aggressive Stimulation
Unlike passive stimulators that rely on subtle muscle contractions, dildos provide direct, aggressive massage of the prostate through active thrusting and movement. Specialized curves and blunt heads enable targeted pressure that pushes, pulls, and drags across the entire prostate for a milking effect.
This active approach delivers intense, full-body sensations more quickly than passive methods. Penis-shaped dildos offer the added benefit of stimulating both the sphincter and prostate simultaneously, creating a uniquely powerful combination that other specialized toys cannot provide.
Active Control
Direct thrusting and movement for aggressive stimulation
Targeted Pressure
Curved heads drag across the prostate for milking action
Dual Stimulation
Stimulates both sphincter and prostate simultaneously
Intense Sensations
Faster, more powerful orgasms than passive methods
The Basics
Selecting Your Dildo
Choose dildos with a specific curve or blunt head for targeted prostate stimulation. Firm silicone provides necessary pressure for aggressive thrusting. Penis-shaped dildos are flexible, comfortable, and stimulate the sphincter in addition to the prostate. A suction cup base enables hands-free mounting on smooth surfaces for riding positions.
Preparation
Use generous lubrication with syringes to inject deeper for comfort. Ensure bowels are empty through fiber intake or enemas for mental focus. Consider abstaining from traditional masturbation 24-48 hours beforehand to increase arousal and pleasure.
Core Techniques
Prioritize slow, deliberate movements over fast thrusting. Experiment with depth: deeper thrusts let the head pass the prostate and milk it on the outstroke, while shallower thrusts (25-50% depth) can be more pleasurable. Use reverse kegels (pushing out) to bring the prostate closer to the dildo. Alternate with anal contractions to vary pressure. Focus mental attention entirely on prostate and anal sensations.
Understanding Dildo Types
Choosing the right dildo depends on material preferences and what type of stimulation you're seeking. Here's a breakdown of the main categories.
Material Types
Dual Density Silicone
Features a firm inner core with soft outer silicone layer for a realistic feel that maintains shape during use.
Single Density Silicone
Available in various firmness levels from soft to extra firm. Firmer toys provide better prostate targeting, while softer toys offer more flexibility and comfort.
💡 Material Note: Quality silicone toys from reputable manufacturers (both dual and single density) are body safe, non porous, and easy to clean. Many cheap products falsely claim to be "silicone" but are actually TPE or blends. Buy from established brands to ensure you're getting genuine silicone. Never use silicone lube with silicone toys as it can damage the material. Stick with water based lubricants.
Design Purpose
While there are many dildo types, this guide focuses primarily on prostate specific designs as they are most relevant for targeted P spot stimulation. Other types are mentioned for reference.
Prostate Specific Dildos
Featuring curved or angled shafts specifically designed to target the prostate gland. This is our main focus and covered in detail in the recommendations section below.
- •Curved or angled tip
- •Usually 5 to 8 inches insertable length
- •1 to 1.75 inches diameter sweet spot
- •Often with ridge or bulge at P spot location
Depth Play Dildos
Long, slim designs for those interested in exploring deeper internal sensations. Requires advanced technique and experience.
- •12 inches or longer insertable length
- •Slim profile (0.75 to 1.5 inches diameter)
- •Flexible material
- •Requires proper preparation and patience
Advanced users only. Requires proper preparation, experience, and going very slowly. Always listen to your body.
Girth Play Dildos
Focus on width and stretch rather than length. Available in progressive size options for gradual training.
- •1.5 to 3+ inches diameter range
- •Shorter length (5 to 7 inches)
- •Gradual taper designs available
- •Size progression sets recommended
Take your time with size progression. Rushing can cause injury.
Fantasy & Textured Dildos
Unique designs featuring knots, ridges, scales, and creative shapes for enhanced stimulation and visual appeal.
- •Knotted designs with bulbous sections
- •Textured surfaces (ridges, scales, bumps)
- •Monster and XL sizing options
- •Unique shapes and colors
Prostate Specific Recommendations
Choose dildos based on your experience level. These recommendations focus specifically on prostate stimulation. All measurements are approximate. Always check specific product dimensions before purchasing.
Beginner Tier
Perfect for those new to dildo based prostate play. These sizes provide stimulation without overwhelming.
Vixskin Spur
A perfect starter dildo with its modest size and premium dual-density silicone construction. The Spur features a gentle 5.25" insertable length and 1.125" diameter, making it ideal for beginners. Its soft outer layer and firm inner core provide both comfort and easy insertion.
Blush Neo Elite 6.5
An affordable yet high-quality dual-density silicone dildo perfect for beginners. Features a soft, comfortable outer layer with a firm core for easy insertion. Its modest size of 6.5 inches and gentle curve make it an excellent first dildo for prostate exploration.
Intermediate Tier
For those comfortable with basics and ready for more substantial stimulation.
Tantus P-Spot
A specially designed prostate dildo made from premium silicone. Features a pronounced curve and bulbous head specifically shaped for prostate stimulation. Its firm material and ergonomic design make it excellent for targeted pressure and massage techniques.
Vixskin Mustang
A high-quality silicone dildo with a realistic feel. While not one of the larger dildos available, its size might still be intimidating for complete beginners and requires patience to get comfortable with. Its curved shaft and pronounced head make it excellent for prostate stimulation, while its dual-density design offers both firmness and comfort.
Advanced Tier
Larger toys for experienced users seeking fuller sensations and deeper stimulation.
Mr Hankey's Captain Hook
A premium silicone dildo with a pronounced curve designed specifically for prostate stimulation. Features a unique hook shape that provides intense and targeted pressure. Available in multiple sizes and firmness options for advanced users.
Bad Dragon Sleipnir
A fantasy-styled dildo with a pronounced curve and unique texture. Features a tapered tip for easier insertion that gradually widens to a more filling size. Available in multiple sizes and firmness options, making it suitable for advanced users seeking intense stimulation.
🧭 Your Path, Your Pace
These tiers are reference points, not a progression ladder you must climb. Many users find their perfect size early and stay there. Others enjoy exploring variety. Both approaches are completely valid.
- • Focus on what feels good, not what size you "should" be at
- • Smaller toys with interesting textures can be more pleasurable than larger smooth ones
- • Depth and girth are different paths. Explore both if curious
- • If you do size up, allow time between changes for your body to adapt
- • Comfort and pleasure matter more than diameter measurements
Positions
These positions work great with suction cup mounted dildos, allowing for hands-free stimulation. Experiment with different mounting surfaces and angles to find what works best for your body and setup.
The Missionary
Lie on your back with knees bent and legs apart, using your hand to thrust the dildo. Rest your arm on your thigh to prevent fatigue, and try different wrist angles to find what hits your prostate best. Good for warming up and exploring what angles work for your body.
The Kneeler
Get on your knees with the dildo mounted behind you. For better comfort, rest your upper body on the bed, couch, or similar. You can also mount the dildo on a stable narrow object like a door frame. You just rock back and forth to control everything. Mounting it at different heights changes the angle, so try low for more direct hits or higher for something different. This one's good for longer sessions because you can rest your upper body weight.
The Squatter
Mount the dildo on the floor and squat over it with your feet flat. Experiment with your upper body position to change the angle. You can support the movement with your arms by pushing on something like the end of a bed. Try moving your hips in circles to find where it hits best. Your legs will get tired after a while, so this works better for shorter bursts rather than extended sessions.
The Rider
Kneel with the dildo mounted on the floor beneath you, using your knees for support instead of a full squat. This is easier on your legs than squatting and lets you go for longer. You can lean forward or sit upright to change the angle.
The Stander
Stick the dildo on a wall around hip height, maybe a bit lower. Back up to it and shift around until the angle works. Optionally you can lean forward a bit and put your hands on a table or chair to support you upper body weight.
The Rider - Bathtub
Place the dildo on the bathtub edge and straddle the tub with a foot on each side. The bathtub wall gives you something to hold onto for balance, and cleanup is obviously way easier.
The Squatter - Bathtub
Mount the dildo on the bathtub edge and squat over it, using the tub walls for balance. Same benefits as The Rider - Bathtub with easier cleanup and grip points.
Useful Accessories
🔧 Mounting Options
Mounting systems expand your positioning options beyond simple suction cups. Adjust height and angle for optimal comfort.
Tom V2 The Other Man
Designed to mount your adult suction toys in a variety of positions. No more using your suction cup toys on the wall or floor. Features 4 rubber feet to help prevent sliding. The downward movement and angles help maintain its position under normal to moderate use.
Solo Saddle Suction Cup Dildo Mount
Versatile mounting system that allows you to position your dildo at various angles and heights. Works with any suction cup base dildo.
💧 Lubrication
Proper lubrication is crucial for comfortable and pleasurable dildo play. These tools and products make a huge difference.
🧼 Toy Care
Keep your toys clean and in excellent condition with proper toy cleaner. Essential for safety and longevity.
Cleanstream Cleanse Toy Cleaner
Toy cleaner that's safe for all materials. Keeps your toys hygienic and in excellent condition.
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